10 Noticeable Signs Your Partner Maybe Gay

All of us love our partners. We love them for what they are, and choose to not look at their insecurities and their flaws. That is what true love is. However, a few times during the course of the relationship, people tend to question their sexuality, their sexual preference and even their sexual orientation.

We have come across many cases where a relationship ended because one person turned out to be interested in the same sex, or to simply put it, he or she was gay or a lesbian.

Whilst it can be really frustrating to suppress your true orientation and we totally are against it, you should also be a little alert to notice those signs as and when they occur that might tell you that your partner might be gay.

We have received a large number of relationship confessions where our readers admitted to missing out some of the more obvious and the subtle signs that could have warned them beforehand about the sexual orientation of their partner.

We do not want any such things to happen to our readers anymore, and hence today we bring out Ten Signs Your Partner Maybe Gay.

1. Decline In The Sex In Your Relationship

Flickr/ Mirøslav Hristøff
Flickr/ Mirøslav Hristøff

Once your partner starts drifting towards another orientation, sex is the first casualty. You start having less and less sex. He seems to be less interested. He seems always tired. He has problems in getting an erection.

All these signs can be a signal of a bigger problem. You can feel the sex has gone down and the tempo hasn’t gone up for a really long time.

While you are end up frustrated, he is cruising away with his other partners. You need to talk if your sex life has taken a hit, and it has been so for a very long time.

2. There Isn’t The Same Lust In Him

Flickr/ Vic
Flickr/ Vic

Your partner would generally not yearn for your touch the same way he used to.

You could see that the lust with which he used to see you when you put on your lingerie would be missing from his eyes.

He would not be so interested in grabbing you from behind, neither he would spank you as often as he used to do.

All these signs indicate a decreased level of attraction and libido towards you.

3. He Is Failing To Perform In The Bed

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Many partners often fail to perform in bed once they have found interest elsewhere. Once you are not the true object of his desires, he might have difficulty in getting it up, or even performing it well. You can often tell if your sex life used to be all exciting and it became dull all of a sudden.

4. You Two Don’t Talk That Often As You Used To Do


Another aspect that takes a hit when your partner is secretly gay is the fact that how well you used to communicate.

Communication is one of the biggest indicators of a healthy relationship, and if you are not communicating well with your partner, it means something is wrong.

A gay partner would avoid certain topics in conversations that could spill the beans. Things can get worse from here and he can often start avoid discussing anything of intimate nature at all with you.

5. Increasing Use Of Sex Toys While You Can Get The Flesh


We humans tend to prefer our partners for pleasure first, and then toys. A mix of two is often preferred too.

But when your partner starts demanding toys for anal stimulation all of a sudden, and you seem to take a back seat, things are going wrong.

He might have had another encounter that might have given him a taste of anal stimulation, and chances are, he is craving it now.

6. He Is Overly Secretive About His Friends And Buddies


If your partner is overly secretive about the people he is hanging out with, chances are he doesn’t want to find out what he is doing with them.

A new group of friends who he has gotten close too soon with might be a group from a gay bar or similar orientation.

Try to find out about who they are, and what they do. Once you have an idea about who they are, or where they are hanging out, you can probably guess what they are doing together.

7. You Seem To Miss The Action In The Threesome


Many couples experiment by arranging a threesome in some point in their life, and while for some it strengthens the bond that they already have, some get to know their partner’s secret orientation.

If you had a threesome, with a friend or an escort recently, and seem to have missed all the action, chances are your partner and the other person involved seem to have found a common interest.

It isn’t something that you should ignore, and we recommend that you talk.

8. An Extreme Makeover

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Once your partner starts cheating on you with someone of the same sex, he might get a strong desire to appeal to his new partner.

In such cases, he could choose to get an extreme makeover, or get too focussed on his appearance.

Such a behaviour is indicative of your partner being concerned about the opinions of someone else other than you, which is a bad news in any case.

9. Pornography


The involvement of pornography has varied effect on any relationship. While in some relationships, it serves as a to do guide, or as a tool to rekindle desires, it sometimes has some detrimental effects too.

Many of our readers have complained that their partners get too involved with porn, and actually start jerking off to porn rather than having the actual thing.

Masturbating excessively can often lead to frustration in your partner since you tend to avoid sex. Gay people often drift towards homosexual porn, and they get hooked up to it.

While it is nothing wrong with watching gay pornography, if his search history indicates that he is looking to replicate the experience of something he saw, that’s the time you should take the hint.

10. Sudden Change In Drinking Habits or Even Drugs


Men often tend to change their drinking habits and many even start the use of cannabis in their phase of drifting or experimenting.

This is often an excuse for lowering their inhibitions and finally getting to do what their heart really wants and desires.

If you ever come across prescription pills that you do not know he is taking, it can be a sure sign that he might be using them for getting high. Any such addiction can also be a sign of much deeper problems.

While these signs are not always exclusive to your partner being gay, but if you find more than any one of the signs mentioned above in your relationship, chances are you need to talk. In order to harbour a trusting and caring relationship, you need to trust your partner and always communicate. Also, try to find out the reasons why he is keeping things away from your knowledge and try tp be a little bit accomodating to let your partner feel comfortable, and share with you his exact feelings.